Feathers Flights // Sewing Blog: Priorities

3.17.2014

Priorities

Lately, I feel like I'm in a constant mental battle of spending more time on my blog versus unplugging from media, accepting paid offers versus not "selling out," and being sponsored versus being myself.
When I first started blogging, the online sewing community was so amazing. Everyone was so willing to share sewing tips, tutorials, and free patterns. Well, the blogging world has changed immensely in the last four years. Brands have realized the big opportunity of collaborating with bloggers. Because of the chance to getting paid to work with brands, I feel some bloggers have become really protective or their work.

I could be a full-time blogger spending lots of time on social media and working on my blog, but I blog because I like to share my sewing projects and earn a tiny amount of money on the side. It's easy to get caught up in all the stuff I should and could be doing, but it stresses me out which then translates back to my family. I actually kind of like where I'm at anyway. I like being a stay-at-home-mom to my children while getting the opportunity to sew and blog about it.
I love sewing all of Henry's clothes and soon all of Claire's clothes. I love that I get to choose their style and makes things that I love dressing them in. I just finished a pair of pants for my husband, and I actually brag about them because I'm so proud of my work and that I was challenged while making them. I also really enjoy making things for myself and that I get a perfect fit me. 
I do enjoy blogging, but it's a lot of work. Before Claire was born I would sew during naps and then blog five evenings a week. I've missed spending time with my husband in the evenings, cutting out fabric, or just doing nothing. It's been so nice to get some of my evenings back since backing off.

I've decided to get back to what I really love which is sewing and then sharing it. I want to be true to myself so that it's not stressful. That way I'll enjoy it more and spend less time stressing myself out. And being true to myself means sharing things for free. I want to get back that feeling I had when I first started blogging which was all about sharing and helping. 
My "success" is to be a good mother and then to sew when I can. It does not mean becoming the next pattern maker, fabric designer, photographer, popular blogger, etc. None of those really appeal to me.
Since I'm not worried about making a living from this blog, my priorities are my family. The money I earn is just an extra incentive, but it's not the real reason I do it. I mean, I blogged for about two and a half years before I saw any money. My children are the greatest, most amazing things I have ever created, and I don't want to miss time with them. I don't want to look back with any regrets.
With a new baby, I'm hoping to post one to two times a week until life settles down. I'm grateful to all you followers who keep coming back, keep giving me a reason to sew and share, and will come back in the future. I really just love sewing and hope to teach you to love it too.
Heather

15 comments:

  1. I think choosing what feels right for you is always the path. I am glad you'll still be yourself, and if you post less than before, is totally ok. I come here for the quality not the quantity and I still will. =D

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  2. I am glad you will still post. I enjoy your posts, and think of you as a friend. (Even though we have never met.) Life, especially kids are important. My hubby reminds me often that I need to get off my phone and spend time with my kids. They are right in front of me. The more I think about it the more I don't want my kids to think that mom was too busy checking her phone to play with them. Enjoy the kids while they are little. it seems in the blink of an eye that littleness is gone!

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  3. I just love this post! It's so hard to decide which direction you want to go and this touched on everything going on in my mind. Thank you so much Heather!!

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  4. Get it girl! Not everyone has the same goals and you shouldn't feel pressured to make other's goals your own. I, for one, will keep coming back whether it's twice a week or seven days a week. Your posts are fun and genuine and not forced and that's cool in my book. Hope you feel supported with your decision because we are all women who love to sew, and helping each other out is something that I LOOOOOOVE about blogging! <3

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  5. I think that's awesome! I love that your priorities are your children (mine are too) and not your blog.

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  6. Blogging is such a time commitment I'm amazed by those who can post so frequently! I'm glad you plan to keep posting, and hope you find a happy balance!

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  7. It can become way too absorbing, I recognized the comment I blogged five evenings a week - I have just gone from blogging once a week to twice a week and find even that a big commitment! The social media can just take over - your posts are so inspiring, making beautiful clothes for you and your family, enjoy that:)

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  8. I agree with Magda... quality, not quantity is the key to a successful blog.

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  9. I admired your helpful words. Top class contribution. I really hope you’ll write more. I'll continue looking for.http://www.amazon.com/gp/product/B00GR0ESK0

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  10. Love this post Heather and that you are being true to yourself. I admire you greatly

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  11. It sounds like the right choice for you. I don't have a family and already find myself overwhelmed sometimes so I can only imagine how hard it must be when you have young children who need and deserve your love and attention. You are right when you say brands are catching on to blogging and although I do make money from my site, I actually turn down many of the opportunities sent my way because I too want to stay on topic and focus on the sewing. I applaud you for your post and wish you and your family well. I'll certainly still be reading and love to see what you love to sew in the future.

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  12. I think it's so smart to be clear about your intentions for blogging. For me blogging has always been about nurturing my personal creativity so when I am working on a project or post that is pushing me creatively I think I am a success! It's been a very healthy approach for me and as a result, I think, I still like blogging :)

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  13. Good job Heather! Nothing feels better than completing a project in which you can be proud of. You're such a great mom!

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  14. Thank you for your honesty, insight (about blogging nowadays) and your courage. I love your blog, your creativity is amazing and....I love watching your beautiful kiddos grow. So keep on keepin'on on

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  15. I have to totally agree with you .... I am not a blogger but I am a reader of lots of blogs and I see more and more blogs are about money. So many times lately I have thought of just unplugging from all social media, but I am still here, I love your work and reading about your babies just enjoy them they do grow fast..... thanks for such honesty... Linda Lee

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